What Are Some Of The Common ‘Lessons Learned’ From Divorce?
If you’re in the process of getting a divorce, you know that it’s easy to get bogged down in all the negative energy and information thrown your way. While divorce ends up being a different experience for everyone, there are some common patterns we see associated with divorce; patterns and truths that can sometimes provide helpful advice:
Whether you did or did not initiate the divorce, know that recovery can take some time. In some circumstances, the person who initiated the divorce can be the hardest hit, especially if they feel like they caused their ex a significant amount of suffering. Remember that regardless of the circumstances, it is perfectly fine to seek help and to feel down.
Children & Signs
If you share children with your ex, you are most likely concerned about the potential effects that divorce could have on them. Know what signs to look for regarding your children potentially feeling responsible for the divorce, and know when to seek professional help. Some of the common signs that divorce is negatively affecting your kids include acting out, arguing, crying, a decline in school performance, feeling afraid, losing interest in activities that they once loved, sadness, withdrawing socially, and worrying.
Vacations & Holidays
If the holidays are around the corner, make sure that you agree on a holiday schedule for your kids that works for both you and your ex and maybe plan a vacation or make plans with loved ones for yourself instead of being alone during this time.
Selecting Financial Advisors & Divorce Attorneys
When it comes to seeking expert advice, chatting with a financial advisor can often be helpful during this time. It is crucial that you make important financial decisions and minimize your current and future stress, and they can help you figure out what adjustments needs to be made sooner rather than later. Also remember that there may be some unexpected costs during this time, especially if you could be approaching a custody battle.
Furthermore, finding the right divorce attorney is also essential. When it comes to finding the very best legal representation, not all things are created equal. Make sure that you do your homework in selecting the right person to work with, as you want to work with someone who will be able to get you the right settlement, especially if you share a significant amount of combined assets with your ex.
Both your financial advisor and divorce attorney can help you address some of the important details when it comes to accounts and finances; details that can often lead to headaches. You not only have to know everything about what your ex makes, but account pins, any investment information, email verifications, online passwords, and other important details.
Finally, even if you’re tired of hearing it, remember that divorce can be empowering—the beginning of a new chapter, not the end of the book! Contact our Florida divorce attorneys at the Arwani Law Firm, PLLC to find out how we can help.